Have you ever ‘accidentally’ jumped ship?

From guardian news.com, "Italian navy divers approach the cruise ship." Photograph by Gregorio Borgia/AP

Have you ever “accidentally” jumped ship?

Your doctor told you to lose weight, so Monday you committed to “low carbs and cardio.” But it only lasted until your co-workers talked you into making lasagna for a potluck. And you make the best lasagna and there were chips and cake and …

You let down a friend. Told her you had a headache. Headaches happen, for real – much of the time – other pains too. But we can make ourselves sick when we’re caught between “said we’d do” and “rather do.” I’ve done it.

Back in 1982, I think, I said yes to Carl for a movie date but changed my mind. Rather than calling him and being honest, I agonized so much over my excuse I was nauseated. “Sorry, can’t. Not feeling well.”

How many times have we walked out on our commitments – business or personal – because things weren’t going our way? Sometimes keeping a commitment is so inconvenient. It takes work; things might get messy. Or worse, we might have to admit we weren’t THAT committed in the first place. We might have to say, I was wrong.

Frances Schettino’s plowing a $450 million ship into a reef was an accident. He didn’t intend for it to happen. Maybe he didn’t even intend to jump ship. In fact he was quoted as saying he was helping people get to safety and tripped into a life boat. True story. (Didn’t mean to abandon ship, I tripped!)

Sometimes we trip. Things get hard and we want to quit. (Thank goodness I had to pay for graduate school in advance.) But we get back on the damn boat. Work it out. Get help. You can even change your mind. What’s key here is the value of the commitment.

Among many life-changing adages from Life Success Seminars is this gem, “My life works in direct proportion to the commitments that I make and keep.”

This most unfortunate accident at sea reminds me to be diligent in making and keeping commitments. Ask, why am I saying I’ll do this, and, do I really mean it? I knew a woman who said yes to marriage only because she couldn’t say no!

My own example with Carl is just one of many. Believe me, there is no saint kristine. I’m grateful that with age comes wisdom. I try not to make commitments I can’t keep. Or if I must break one, I do my best to apologize and explain.

George Eliott said, “What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined – to strengthen each other … ”   And I add, to strengthen ourselves. The stronger I become, the stronger I am for you.

 

4 responses to “Have you ever ‘accidentally’ jumped ship?

  1. wisdom is earned by the journey! You are well on the “road”!

  2. What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined – to strengthen each other … ” And I add, to strengthen ourselves. The stronger I become, the stronger I am for you. A good definition of a “friend”. A copy of “Wind Beneath My Wings” is an inspiration when soloed by a harp played by Serena O’Mera. A mom you know once gave me a copy and has been close at hand every since. love ya

  3. Nice job Kris. Thanks.

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